CHAPTER 5;...FRIENDSHIP,LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP!!

CHAPTER FIVE

FRIENDSHIP OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

There are youth/people who do not feel right or morally clean to have friends of the opposite sex or even to be to be in their company. They actually feel guilty about this! Some feel this way because they haven’t been taught about the blessing of God of having friends who should be as brothers or sisters to them. But some feel not right to have such friends because they have been taught the opposite, that it is wrong and sinful, and that it is lustful, dangerous and immoral to be a friend with the opposite sex. 

When such youth find themselves in the middle of a company of opposite sex, they become totally uneasy and they really get disturbed, psychologically and spiritually. Yaani you can find them, even praying for themselves or to even to the extent of rebuking and casting away devils or evil spirits of  immorality, whom may not be there, (I have seen these people and I have talked to them, as they were seeking/finding help).

Some of these people, when they are shown normal friendly interest they think the other person wants her/him as a lover or they think the other person wants her/him for marriage!  This is a problem, especially in the church! And also in schools and families where teenagers do not mix up much.  Listen! Men/boys are not there just to be husbands to you.  Women/girls are not their just to be wives to you.  Friendship and sexuality was not made only sex, marriage and for baring children. Friendship is God’s plan and purpose for many reasons. Friendship is God’s work and design. Friendship is psychological and spiritually healthy.

Did you ask yourself why you matured at the age of 14 or 12? This is approximately 15 years before an average African marriage age. Have you ever asked yourself why these “second growth characters” (Biological changes) didn’t come on us a year before each one’s marriage. It could have been a better signal for one to start thinking of marriage.  It could really be a good help for us, not to trouble ourselves, thinking of life partners, before these signs come! But why did God have to bring these body changes which result in “attraction” between opposite sex, 15 years (approximately) before your marriage?

I once asked God that question, when those “disturbances” were hitting me, and the Holy Spirit, our teacher, helped me to understand that, physical maturity can happen quickly, (one year is enough) but mental, psychological and spiritual maturity takes time. The Holy Spirit asked me this question; “If the world needs something like 20 years to prepare good doctors, engineers, lawyers, accountants, etc, from primary school to professions, how much time does God need to prepare a good husband, wife, father or mother, spiritually and mentally?”

The future adulthood life has soo many demands and challenges.  One needs to be adequately equipped, trained and prepared to handle all such life challenges.  I believe, that’s why God had to bring the experience of friendship many years before, so that through the spiritual ministry and friendly experiences, one can be adequately prepared, with a good foundation to carry the entire load and the pressures of the adult and parental life. That’s why God invented friendship. Friendship is God’s plan, that’s what Paul is advising his “son” Pastor Timothy, on how to handle “girls” in the church. He told him, “Treat men as young brothers… and young women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1Tim 5:2).

Notice this, Paul did not say that, he should treat girls in faith as “cats and rats” but as sister, and not as enemies or ‘danger zone’. He didn’t say “separate your self from them”. But Apostle Paul was trying to say (paraphrasing) ‘Pastor Tim, your relationship with girls in the church, should be of a brother and a sister in absolute purity and holy and perfect”.  That’s God’s plan and God’s will for us. He wants to see boys and girls live in perfect godly love, with pure and honest friendship between them as a brother and sister in Christ.

Casual friends, weather same sex or opposite sex, are very helpful and good. It is a gift from God “Every good and perfect gift comes from above, from the father of lights” (James 1:17). It is for the future fathers and mothers, to know and understand the other creation of God (species) well, but also to receive the blessing of love, care, concern and attention, the same sex can not provide. A ‘clean’ brother-sister relationship, has many ‘blessings’and things which you can learn from the opposite sex, which you may/will never learn/get from the same sex friend. But absolutely speaking, there has to be a Holy Spirit balance and wisdom in between the friends, in order to experience all God’s blessings He has intended for us to receive from these opposite sex friendship.

“All scripture is God-breathed, and is good and useful for teaching and rebuking and correcting and training in uprightness, so that the people of God may be adequately prepared and equipped for every good work”  (2Tim 3:16-17.) “I praise you God, for you have created me in a very wonderful and fearful way” (Psalms 139:14.) “God saw all that He made, it was very good…” (Gen 1:31)   

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A DEEP SUMMARY ON.... PRAISE AND WORSHIP....(8)

WORSHIP

Last week I promised to get into deep in answering the seven questions. I am going to start with the key question that will help us get the answers to the rest as well: What is worship?

There was a time when I really struggled on what really this is, I could just here people saying let us worship God, or it is time to worship or maybe give us a worship song and even let's go to a praise and worship concert. It was something strange but everyone seemed to know it so  just followed their ways, if they sing, I sing, if they pray, I pray, if they lift up their hands, I did the same even though I might have not had a strong conviction to do so.

I could not get the most of the time back then. But when I started knowing what worship really means, not just the meaning from the dictionary the true revelation from God, is when I started enjoying worshiping God and so I have continued seeking more and more of the concerns of worship.

Now let us come to the question, what is worship?

The English word worship comes from a Greek word 'Proskuneo' which means 'to fall before' or 'bow down before'. It is not just a mere action but it is an attitude of the spirit.

Worship is to be done all the time regardless of the time or the situation we are going through. 

We praise God because of what He has done, He is doing and/or what He is going to do but we worship God for who He is. When God reveals Himself to you, you will just worship Him! The level of your   depends so much on your knowledge of who God is, to what extent has He revealed Himself to you! He is a great God!!

If you read from the book of Mark chapter 12 verses 29 through 33 as Jesus was answering a question

29 "The most important one," answered Jesus, "is this: 'Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one.   30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.'   31 The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these." 

32 "Well said, teacher," the man replied. "You are right in saying that God is one and there is no other but him. 33 To love him with all your heart, with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices." 

(NIV)

Worshiping God is acknowledging His greatness, knowing that there is only one living God. One will not turn to idles while knowing for sure who really God is! God has commanded us to have no other gods other than Him

We see this from the book of Exodus chapter 20 verses 2 through 6

"I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. 

3 "You shall have no other gods before me. 

4 "You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 6 but showing love to a thousand [ generations] of those who love me and keep my commandments.
NIV

 This is because He knows that He is the only God, the only Worthy God and He wants us as His children to know the same! Only God deserves to be worshiped as He is the only true living God!!

                         TO BE CONTINUED........!!!

A DEEP SUMMARY ON.... PRAISE AND WORSHIP....(7)

WORSHIP

INTRODUCTION
I am so glad that here is another opportunity once again for us to get to learn something about worship, something that as Christians, we ought to do. In fact, we need to live a life of worship. If you read the Bible from the book of John chapter 4 verse 24 says "God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth." NIV This is a very powerful verse that gives us the basis of how worship should be done - in spirit and truth! 

If we take a look at John 4:21-23 we see that " Jesus declared, "Believe me, woman, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. 22 You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews. 23 Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks." NIV

These verses gives us a clue who  and where Jews and Samaritans worshiped at that time. And verse 21 indicates that that was just temporarily as there is a time coming where they will no longer worship at either places. Furthermore, verse 23 says that the time is coming and has NOW come when the TRUE worshipers will worship the father in SPIRIT and TRUTH. I get a point that, both Jews and Samaritan worshiped but yet, among them, there were both true and false worshipers and ONLY true worshipers can worship the father in spirit and truth.

Verse 23 continues by saying ....they are the kind of worshipers the father seeks!!

It is my prayer that by the end of this lesson, the following 7 questions will have clear answers to help us in our lives as worshipers

1. What is worship?
2. Who is a true worshiper?
3. Why do we worship?
4. Where should worship?
5. What God wants the most, worship or a worshiper?
6. How powerful worship is?
7. How do I begin my journey as a truthful worshiper?

please join me next week as we start this journey of learning and getting to know more about worship!

                                 TO BE CONTINUED....... 

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A DEEP SUMMARY ON... PRAISE AND WORSHIP...(6)


Today we are winding up the first major part of this lesson by looking at a few verses from the bible to help us move to the next level in praise!!!

First I want us to look at Psalms 22:3
" Yet you are holy,

enthroned on the praises of Israel."

This is a powerful verse that guarantees the presence of God! Imagine living a life of praise day and night 24/7. It is obvious that you become transformed from glory to glory. When you operate everything in God's presence, the best results that gives God glory are inevitable!!!

Next, let us take a look at Psalms 63:3-5

"3 Because your love is better than life,
my lips will glorify you. 
4 I will praise you as long as I live,
and in your name I will lift up my hands. 
5 My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods;
with singing lips my mouth will praise you." NIV

Let us glorify God with our lips, what comes out of our mouths, let it be something that glories God. Let us stop exalting our problems and give people the glory that should be given unto God. Let us speak the words of life!

As next week we are going to start a sermon on worship, i would love to bridge these sessions by saying that, praise generally talks about what God does, what He can do and worship is about who God is. It is my hope that you have been blessed with the sermons that we had in the past few weeks and I urge you not to miss the coming sessions in the next few weeks as we are going to get a little deeper in worship. 

VIGEZO VYA UBORA/HESHIMA VYA MTUMISHI WA MUNGU HUSUSANI MWANA-SANAA (01)

(Qualities of honor of a Christian Servant especially Christian Artist (Celebrity))

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Shalom!!

Ninayo heshima kubwa sana kwenu na kwa Mungu na moyo wangu umejaa shukrani mno, ahsante kwa kupata muda wa kujifunza na kuyatafakari yale yafaayo kutafakariwa!!

Nimekuwa na maswali mengi sana kichwani mwangu na mara kadhaa niwewahi kuwahoji watu mbalimbali, kuwa….HIVI KWA MFANO UKIANDAA TUKIO FULANI MAHUSUSI NA UKATAMANI MMOJA WA WASANII(WA SANAA YEYOTE ILE) AWE MGENI RASMI, UTAMCHUKUA NANI? KWA NINI? NA KAMA UKIMPATA HUYO, NI KWA NINI HUYO NA SIO MWINGINE?

Bila shaka umeshtuka na kichwani mwako bado una haha na yamkini hata nadharia zako huziamini amini vile, lakini yote haya ni kwasababu gani?

Je hakuna msanii mwenye hadhi ya kuwa mgeni rasmi? Je wasanii au watu maarufu wanajua thamani yao? Je wanajua kujiweka sawasawa mbele ya jamii?

Nimeona nianzie hap oleo na nitaendelea kuzungumza mambo muhimu ya kuzingatia kwa mtumishi wa MUNGU anapokuwa maarufu au star kwa lugha ya leo!!

HATUA ZA MSINGI

Kipaji mtu hupewa na Bwana lakini maboresho ya kipaji huletwa na juhudi ya mwenye kipaji, yaani namaanisha huwezi kung’aa katika kipaji chako kama hujaweka juhudi za kutosha katika kipaji hicho, hivyo zifuatazo ni hatua za msingi kwa mtu yeyote;

a.     KUJITAMBUA

Kila mtu anapaswa kujitambua vema, yeye ni nani? Anataka nini katika maisha na anatamani kufika wapi? Zaidi nini makusudi ya Mungu kumleta hapa duniani!!(HILO SI SOMO PANA SANA LAKINI HAPO MBELENI TUTAKUJA KUCHAMBUA KWA KINA SANA)

b.     KUJIVUMBUA

Mtu akishajitambua sasa anakuwa na heshima ya kuwa mtu na sasa kuna uwezo ambao Mungu ameuweka ndani ya kila mtu kipekee na uwezo huo ndio unaotoa mwelekeo hata wa kusudi la maisha yako hapa duniani. Sasa unapaswa kupitia hatua hii ya kujivumbua, hapa mtu anajua kwa hakika yeye ana kipaji Fulani na hicho amepewa awe makini kwa manufaa yake na jamii nzima(PIA HAPA TUTAKUJA KUCHAMBUA KWA KINA SANA HAPO MBELENI)

c.      KUJIFUNDISHA

Neno kujifundisha limesimama kwa niaba ya maneno MAFUNZO, yaani ukishajivumbua sasa unajitaji elimu,utaalamu na ujuzi bora uliopangiliwa vema sana juu ya hicho kipaji chako, watu wengi sana wakishajivumbua kuwa wao ni wazuri katika jambo Fulani basi hawafanyi jambo lolote zaidi kuvimba kichwa na kuanza kuishi maisha ya maigizo na unakuta hata hawavumi kivile kwasababu hawajawekeza kwenye kujifunza(HAPO MBELENI TUTACHIMBA NDANI KABISA NA KTOA MIFANO HAI)

d.     KUJIJARIBU

Hii ni hatua ambayo mtu anaanza kujihudhurisha mbele ya kadamnasi na kujaribu kuonyesha kile anaweza kufanya na hapa ni kama elimu wa vitendo, kwa maana hapa mtu anakuwa bado havijui vingi lakini anafanya vile ajuavyo na kufungua masikio kwa ajili ya maoni na mafunzo zaidi, hapa wengi huruka na kudhani wameshakuwa watu maarufu na ndio maana unaweza kuona mtu anakuja kwa kasi sana kasha akapotelea matopeni!!!

N.B; HATUA HII HUENDA IKIBOREKA NA KUBOREKA KADRI  MTU ANAVYOJITAHIDI KUONGEZA JUHUDI KATIKA KUJARIBU NA KUJARIBU TENA(WAZUNGU WANASEMA…PRACTISE MAKES PERFECT)

e. KUJIHUDHURISHA RASMI SASA

Baada ya muda wa kutosha sasa unafika wakati wa kuwekwa wakfu na kuanza kufanya na kuishi kipaji chako, hapo unakuwa bidhaa na unakuwa mshauri na mwalimu wa wengine wanakuja katika njia moja au katika tasnia uliyoipitia, na wakati huu na wewe pia huendelea kukua na kama ukizingatia misingi ya kwanza basi wewe kwenye sanaa uko salama….

HUU ULUKUWA NI MSINGI TU WA UTANGULIZI NA….

TUTAENDELEA KUCHAMBUA KIDOGO KIDOGO, MPAKA HAPO NITAKAPOMALIZA KIINI CHA UJUMBE HUU!!

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